How to Find a Roommate (and Not Regret It Six Months Later)
A roommate can cut your rent nearly in half, which is a huge deal in most cities. A bad roommate can also turn your home into the place you avoid.
You can’t predict everything, but most roommate disasters come from things that could have been discussed upfront. Here’s how to find someone good and set things up so you stay friends, or at least friendly.
Where to Look
- Friends, coworkers and friends of friends (the safest bet)
- Roommate-matching websites and apps with verified profiles
- Local community groups and alumni networks
- Your employer’s or school’s housing boards
Meet in a public place first, and video chat before that if you’re matching online.
Questions to Ask Before You Commit
- What’s your work schedule? Are you a morning or night person?
- How often do you have guests or overnight visitors?
- How clean do you keep shared spaces?
- Do you have pets, or are you allergic to any?
- Do you smoke or drink, and how often?
- How do you handle bills and paying on time?
- Why are you moving, and how long do you plan to stay?
Do Your Homework
Ask for a reference from a previous landlord or roommate. Many landlords will also run a credit and background check on anyone added to the lease. Make sure everyone who lives there is on the lease or approved by the landlord.
Write a Roommate Agreement
It feels formal, but it prevents most fights. Put in writing how rent and utilities are split and paid, cleaning duties, guest rules, quiet hours, shared purchases and what happens if someone moves out early. Everyone signs it.
Red Flags
- Reluctance to share references or meet in person
- Vague answers about income or past rentals
- Pushing to move in immediately with cash only
- A long list of complaints about every past roommate
Keep Reading
- The 3x Rent Rule
- How Much Rent Can I Afford? A Simple Guide to Setting Your Apartment Budget
- Renter’s Insurance Explained
FAQ
Should my roommate be on the lease?
Ideally, yes. It protects both of you and is often required by the landlord.
How should roommates split rent?
Equally for similar rooms, or by room size and private bathroom access. Agree in writing.
What if my roommate stops paying rent?
If you’re both on the lease, you may each be responsible for the full rent. That’s why vetting and a written agreement matter.
Do roommates need separate renter’s insurance?
Usually, yes. Most policies only cover the people named on them.
